If you feel unsafe in your relationship, there are many things you can do to try to protect yourself and your children from the violence. Your safety plan will be unique to your own experience. It will look different depending on the kinds of violence you have experienced in your relationship, if you have children or not, where you live, your support system… Whether you are going to try to work things out with your partner or you are planning to end the relationship, your safety is critical.
An advocate from CADA is available 24/7 to help you think about your safety. As you consider how you will respond in an unsafe and dangerous situation, here are some tips to keep in mind:
- Trust your instincts – you know your partner and what he/she is capable of better than anyone else. If something doesn’t feel right, or if a certain situation makes you feel afraid, then it is probably not safe.
- Try to leave the home when you think an abusive incident may happen. For example, if your partner becomes abusive after he/she has been out drinking, try to make plans to be away from the home when they return.
- If you are unable to avoid an abusive incident, try to think of a way to direct the incident to occur in a room with no weapons, such as knives in the kitchen or razors in the bathroom. Also consider spaces where there is more than one exit so that you can avoid becoming trapped.
- Pack a bag with items you might need in an emergency and leave it somewhere where your partner will not find it – maybe in the trunk of your car, or at a neighbor or family member’s home.
- Carefully consider your support system. Do you have family or friends that you can trust to help? Make sure they understand that it is important they do not share your safety plan with your partner, even if they feel their intentions are good.
- Think about in what situation you would call 911 for assistance. If your partner has stolen your phone in the past while you were trying to call 911, consider purchasing a pre-paid phone and hiding it somewhere in the home, or teach your children to call 911.
Know your options. An advocate from CADA can help you to identify what those options are, identify support systems, make a safety plan or assist with a restraining order.
CADA Victim Services Offices
- Blue Earth County - 507-625-8688
- Brown County - 507-233-6663
- Faribault County - 507-526-5275
- Le Sueur County - 507-934-5583
- Nicollet County - 507-934-5583
- Sibley County - 507-233-6666
- Waseca County - 507-835-7828
- Watonwan County - 507-375-3040
CADA's office hours are typically
8:00 a.m. to 4:00 p.m. Monday through
Friday. Occasionally an advocate
may not be available during these
office hours. You may want to call
ahead to confirm or schedule an