One in three women will be victims of domestic violence at some point in their lives. Domestic violence impacts women, men and children of any cultural background, socioeconomic status, sexual orientation, gender, age or religion. CADA offers specific services to help you if you have been a victim of domestic violence.
The following questions are designed to point out possible abuse in a relationship or what we call “red flags”. If you answer yes to any of these, you may be in an abusive relationship. Please explore the rest of the website to get more information and learn about our services. Please contact us if you have any questions.
- Do you feel nervous around your partner?
- Do you have to be careful to control your behavior to avoid your partner’s anger?
- Do you feel pressured by your partner when it comes to sex?
- Are you scared of disagreeing with your partner?
- Does your partner criticize you, or humiliate you in front of other people?
- Is your partner always checking up on you or questioning you?
- Does your partner repeatedly and wrongly accuse you of seeing or flirting with other people?
- Does your partner tell you that if you changed, he or she wouldn’t treat you like this?
- Does your partner’s jealousy stop you from seeing friends or family?
- Does your partner make you feel like you are wrong, stupid, crazy, or inadequate?
- Has your partner ever scared you with violence or threatening behavior?
- Does your partner say, “I will kill myself if you break up with me” or “I will hurt/kill you if you break up with me”?
- Does your partner make excuses for the abusive behavior? For example: saying, “It’s because of alcohol or drugs,” or “I can’t control my temper,” or “I was just joking”?
Questions taken from the Center for Relationship Abuse Awareness (stoprelationshipabuse.org)
What is Domestic Violence?
Domestic violence is any attempt to gain power or control over another person using physical, emotional, sexual or financial tactics. The wheel you see shows that power and control are at the center of an abusive relationship. In other words, abuse is when there is a pattern of one person trying to gain power and control over the other. One of the most obvious or blatant ways to control another person is by using violence – such as hitting a person, holding someone down or sexually assaulting someone. However there are other ways of controlling a person that do not include physical violence and are not as easy to spot. Instead of using physical or sexual violence many abusers use verbal, emotional, psychological or financial tactics to control the other person. Some examples of these forms are shown in between the “spokes” of the wheel. They are more subtle so often people do not recognize them as abuse. But they are abuse, and they often lead to violence.
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